He who has a why to live can bear almost any howNietzsche
I have struggled with this myself. For a long time, I took life as it came.
Job. Relationships. Money. Fitness. And almost all areas of my life! Let me tell you, it was boring. Until I started consciously thinking about my personal growth. And I realized that, when I did changes to my personal growth, other areas of my life started improving.
In this episode of Success 10X Podcast, I discuss the power of purpose in life with Samir Geepee.
Samir gave at least seven instances from his life which were inspiring. He shared why he does what he does. He is a great storyteller and conversationalist.
You will specifically learn:
#Why you need a Personal Coach
#Our Quality of Life depends on the Quality of Questions
#Samir’s Definition of Success – Earl Nightingale
#Samir’s morning routine for an energetic day!
#Samir’s mastermind for kids
About Samir Geepee
Samir Geepee is a personal transformation coach, team transformation coach based in Dubai.
Visit Samir’s Website: http://samirgeepee.com
Book by Samir Geepee
Link: Awesome Cup
Deepak Machado 0:00
One thing I appreciate about Samir is that he's brutally honest. I happened to attend one of his sessions of Turning Point and he gave feedback to the attendees with such great honesty. He speaks from his heart. And in today's episode of Success 10 X, we discussed about power of purpose, and I had loads of fun, I'm sure you will have fun listening to this conversation. It was a high energy conversation, as far as I consider it. So let's get in.
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In today's episode of Success 10 X podcast. We will be talking about the power of purpose in your senses. And to discuss this we have Samir GP, Samir is a personal transformation coach, a trained transformation coach based out of the blue, and I found his beautiful initiative called awesome walkers about which we will talk later during the episode sameen is a Toastmaster summaries a personal coach. I welcome Samir, to this episode of Success 10X podcast Samir, welcome to you. Thank you very much for having me over here. And coming. I like to keep things simple on this podcast. So first of all, since you are a personal coach, or personal transformation coach, I'd like to know why do I or anyone need a personal coach?
Samir Geepee 2:25
Well, nobody needs a personal coach. It is not something that is pushed upon somebody. And it's a wonderful question. It's a question that I asked myself a long time ago. And if you look at people who are living across the world around us, not everyone has a life coach or a transformation coach in their life. To look at tennis player, for example, not everyone has a coach. But the winners always do.The best of them always have coaches. So coaching is not something that you need. Coaching is something that you should want. If you desire for yourself a peak performance to take the best out of what you have within you. Then it is a matter of someone who can identify where your bottlenecks are, where your blind spots are, what you are not seeing that they can see, which will make all the difference in how you play the game of life. So to answer your question, nobody really needs it should be something that they want.
Deepak Machado 3:34
Good Samir, thank you for that.
You are a passionate conversational person, I have come to know about you with a few conversation that I had with you. So our quality of life, you know, depends on the thoughts. We have. So to know myself better? What questions should I ask on a basic? On the basic level? What questions should I ask myself to know myself better? Do you have any thoughts on those?
Samir Geepee 4:06
So again, it's a good question. You're asking very good questions right off the bat when we just started off over here. And I can see that you're quite mindful person, you introspect, and you prepare very well. And you actually have that mindset of the end objective in mind before we even started this podcast. So right off the bat, your first two questions, shows that and I think that is exactly what you should do for life.When you have your end objective in mind, then the right questions will show up in your life. There's no set kind of questions have asked this, this and this. Because everybody's objectives are different. Everybody's intentions are different. And once you identify an empowering intention for yourself, the questions will emerge.
Deepak Machado 5:02
Again, I would like to say that you are a passionate speaker, I've seen you on various platforms, on YouTube. On Facebook yesterday, I attended your turning point. Where did this passion originate from? Were there any particular events that happened in your life that inspired you to take up this as your mission to be a conversationalist to be a personal coach to be a transformation? COACH? Can you enlighten us on that?
Samir Geepee 5:29
Very interestingly, when I was very young, these would be people who used to come around me and tell me that I would be a good speaker. But I remember this incident very clearly, I was, I guess, in my fifth standard. And standing in front of an audience I was. So in our school, we had about four to 5000 students, and the morning assembly used to be like for that big of an audience, just to be a huge school in Qatar. And one of the days I was supposed to prepare a speech and deliver. I remember trembling, and standing in the back waiting for my name to be called. The thought process in my mind is, am I gonna fumble? Am I gonna screw it up? Am I? What am I going to do? And why will I be able to save Will I be able to impress the audience, all these kind of thoughts, and I went and stood in front over there. And they froze. And I froze. And then I just walked back. And there was something I was really, really scared of public speaking. Then I went to boarding school and boarding school, the same thing happened again, there used to be people who used to come up to me, teachers who used to say, you know, you should take part in the speech competition, I would shrug it off, I would say no, I'm not going to go through the experience of going and standing in front of an audience and freezing. And this was my continuous constant thought for the longest period of time in my life.
Samir Geepee 6:56
And then I went to college. In college, again, there was a group discussion and for so during the first year used to have events where students used to go up on stage and speak and I always avoided whatever was there with respect to competitions, where I had to stand up on stage. Then there was a small group discussions and my friends forced me to take part in it. Again, I froze. And I'm not kidding you, everyone's eyes staring at you. And everyone believing that you can do it, but you don't believe in yourself.And when we live with that self doubt, then what happens is, it plays out in our life, and it played out in my life. And I saw that I was not able to speak because I was doubting myself already. Even before I started even before I delivered, even before I uttered a single word. As a result of it, what happened. I couldn't speak I finished college, I had to stay back in my hometown calicut. And I happen to join an organization with a call the road track, which is a junior wing of the rotary. Now what happened over there was, I came from an engineering college and all the students who were part of the college had moved to different parts of the world, they had got campus placements, and all this stuff. And I was sitting in this small town over calicut. And I happen to join this particular club, where all the members of the club was very notorious and all that stuff. So among them, I seem the wiser lot. So within a span of three to four months, they said summit, you're going to be the next president of the club. So I took up the position. And slowly my confidence started growing from there where I had to stand in front of an audience and speak.
Samir Geepee 8:49
And it is from there, where I didn't look to please anyone, I didn't look to be good in front of anyone. I just couldn't be myself, where my journey of speaking actually started. Then I came to Dubai after so many years, I came to Dubai. I joined Toastmasters. Again, I had the self doubt, I had a mentor who was trying to coach me and tell me you know, write your script, write your speeches and all this to identify that there are different ways of speaking.
Samir Geepee 9:17
And when I realize I have no this is a long winded answer. But what I'm trying to connect the dots over here is when I identified who I was, when I became comfortable with who I am, when I started to show up in front of an audience, being myself it became the most liberating experience of my life. So speaking is what we all do. So I always say there is no fear of public speaking, there is only fear of public judgement. And the moment we realize it is a fear of public judgment that we have and not the fear of public speaking. Then it's a matter of just embracing yourself who you are
Samir Geepee 10:00
And speaking doesn't become an expert or ritual anymore.
Deepak Machado 10:02
I was getting to that, you know, when you said about schools, I wanted to be a singer. So when I was very small, like maybe second third grade, so, but when I went on stage, I froze. Like I saw, the huge number of students are my schoolmates. I froze in front of them and just ran away. Yeah, it's it's fear of judgment, I believe you nailed. And you hammered on the head of the need. So that fear of judgment of what other people think about me, and it is also said that the public has a fear of public judgement of public speaking is one of the biggest fears people have. Why is it so common among other people? So are we all so scared of judgment by others? What are your thoughts
Samir Geepee 10:53
And thoughts on this is we are raised. So this is my philosophy. You know, I mean, this is, I mean, this is my observation on philosophy, there's no observation about how we grew up. When we are very, very young, very young, and I mean, like zero to one and to be completely handicapped and incapacitated, we don't have the skills to utter even a word. During those formative years, what happens is our parents become the ones who are spoon feeding as an offering as ideas and all that stuff. Now, what happens as a result of it is, the parents feel that their muscle of they know more, they know better, gets reinforced as they raise these kids. And as the child starts growing up, what happens is, the child also believes the parents know better, every time the parent says, No, you don't do it, or what you're doing is wrong. It reinforces in themselves, and what they're doing is right or wrong. Now, I'm not judging what what the event or the experience is.
Samir Geepee 12:06
But the point that I'm coming to is, you start living a life where you're constantly judged, very, very young age, for the smallest of things, even how you lift the spoon, or how you sit at the table, or how you talk to people or how you drink a glass of water, you're constantly judged. And if you have a parent who is a very judgmental parent, then it is even more. And as a result, what happens is when they go into society, when they go out there, if their experience of being judged was not aligned with how they were feeling inside, it starts playing out in life in various forms.
Samir Geepee 12:51
So they avoid the experience of being judged. Now, you can speak to a friend, you can speak to five friends. But imagine if you're standing on stage and doing the same thing, it is actually the same thing. Right, you're just speaking to one or two, or five or 10 people, that becomes 100,000. That's it. But at a mass level, when you cannot handle the response, when you cannot handle what will be their internal dialogue, you freeze inside. And I believe one of the reasons for this also is when someone goes up on stage, and make it all about themselves. That is when they have the fear of public judgement.When you're going up on stage to add value into other people's lives, and you're offering them something. you're offering them some way of living as an inspiration or motivation, or any of that stuff, if you're coming from that true intent, where it is not about you, but it is about others. And the day that gets clicked in a person's mind.
Samir Geepee 14:03
That fear of judgment gets removed. Because all you're doing is you're offering something and you're hoping that they will take it and embrace it. So in this picture, you're out of the frame.
Deepak Machado 14:20
Yeah, you're absolutely right. Some of you and I had this great fear of public speaking, younger days, but But yeah, I grew out of that. And from the testimonials I've read about you from the testimonials I've read about Samir, you've changed the lives of so many people, right. So you took maybe a conscious decision to be a personal coach, or did you choose it consciously or this career path or do something inspire you to do this Did some event happen to you? Or did you see, when you took up personal growth for yourself? Do you Did you see that you could help other people also, to be at the level that you are.
Samir Geepee 15:14
So I'm very far from where I want to be actually still on this constant journey of evolving and improving. But I lived a long life, about 39 years before I found out what my true passion in life is what my purpose in life is. And that is only because I didn't have the tools or the resources or the people or the mentors around me, who had as many resources and tools that is required to guide a young woman. And I went through life where I had, I kept changing jobs, I kept changing careers, I kept firing myself, I never got fired from a job, I find myself on every job I had, I had about seven jobs by foreign way. One that was that is today my true purpose in life, which is to help other people find their purpose. And I have gone through this deep rooted. So I finished my civil engineer, for example, am doing nothing related to civil engineer, I, I left and did so many other different jobs, including selling for artisan correct, right. So I've been on the spectrum trying to discover myself and disco, where is it that everything connects me to. And I'm not belittling, selling, correct and correct sell. Because in that also what I was doing was, I was managing people, I was not actually going and making characters or taking the teach, but I was managing people and I was helping him improving even teams and everything. That being said, in my life experiences and everything that I've been through in life. And then when I discovered the world of coaching, I realized that everything that I went through life was preparing me for this role. So right from a young age, I used to have very deep conversations with individuals. And I never knew that conversations is something that I'm passionate about until people started telling me while I was doing it in public, that when I say public, where I used to have conversation events as to interview people, in front of an audience, people used to repeatedly come and tell me your greater conversations, the way that you handle the crowd, the way that you engage the audience is amazing. And the way that you ask those deep questions is fantastic. Initially to brush it off, later, I realized these are positive reinforcement, I am good at something.
Samir Geepee 17:46
And this is what a lot of people actually do as well, right? They ignore the praises that they get from somebody else, not realizing that it is a reinforcement of something that you're really good at, that you should probably be working on to improve even further. So the moment I realized that this is where my true skills or my true passion is, and I can truly add value into other people's lives. I just connected the dots. And then I said, this is a great thing to do. And that's how I found, but it was by accident purely because I was supposed to move to Turkey, and in 2016, and then there was a bomb blast over there, there was an emergency and a curfew and everything sort of happening one after the other just when I was about to leave, and go and relocate myself. And I found it as a sign from the above that you know, Samir, totally not now, go look for something else. And then I started looking and that's when I discovered coaching. So it is very much by accident, perhaps, that I found my calling.But I'm glad I did.
Deepak Machado 19:02
So could you elaborate Why should everyone have a purpose in life? How do we get clarity about our purpose? Do you have any particular exercises that are frameworks that you personally followed? Could you share with us?
Samir Geepee 19:18
So you just reminded me with a question of an experience that I had where I went to a school and I was delivering a conversation, not a talk. All right, I was delivering a conversation. And you might ask how do you deliver a conversation? What I did was I went up over there and I didn't have any material prepared. I just had a few questions prepared. I went over there. I had, in fact I didn't have the initial kickoff question. So I asked this group of students, I think there were about 400 students over and I asked a question about life or schooling or something I asked and it kicked off and then after that, Based on their answers, you kept on having a conversation for an hour or so when somebody answered a question, and if I found that the answer was deep and meaningful, then I would invite them to stay, then I would have a further conversation with them for about three to four minutes or five minutes. And then I would let them go back and the next person might come. So during this conversation, and they were 12, 13 year old kids, right, they are not like, much older or, like 13 - 14 year old kids, and the meaning of life and the purpose of life. These 13 year olds started discussing about this. And I was like, amazed, you know, truly amazing kids at the age of 13, talking about the meaning of life and the purpose of life. So I was completely flummoxed. And I said, How many of you have an opinion about this? And then about five, six hands went up, went up. I said, Okay, all five of you come to the stage, then. Then I had all five of them on the stage. And then we started discussing the purpose of life.
Samir Geepee 21:10
And I remember one girl's answer from there. It was deep and touching. And it really, even the teachers were sitting there were like, how do you? How do these kids, you know, speak about such things, really profound things. And it is a deep insight for me that today's kids are far ahead of the game in terms of how we were and where they are right now. They are so exposed to life and internet and information and everything around them. So this girl, she said, I don't think we are born with a purpose.
Samir Geepee 21:47
I believe we are given a life so that we can find our purpose. And I found that a very deeply empowering statement. Because it got aligned with what I thought about purpose purposes. When you are able to connect, and this is the framework that I offer, to you to the listeners are here and to everyone. And this is what I always share with my clients, and I asked them to figure this out, is to find out what is your gift from God? Or in other words, what is your zone of genius? And then decide to use it to serve humanity? And when you can actually identify what is your zone of genius? What is your strength? What is it that you're really, really, really good at, and then decide to use it to serve humanity, you ask yourself, what are the different ways that I can use it to serve humanity?
Samir Geepee 22:44
At times, you go through pain in life, you go through different pains in life. And sometimes those pains are the indicator of what segment of society can you serve with a gift that you have? Because you will be deeply empathetic to those people. Like for myself, at a very young age, I was lost, I didn't have the proper guidance, I didn't have the correct direction. I didn't have a mentor in my life. I didn't have a coach in my life. And I know that if I had someone who could instill in me the values, the mindset, and the belief system that is required to be successful at a very young age, my life would have been different. So that's exactly what I want to offer. The next generation, exactly what I want to offer, the ones who are coming behind me or after me.
Deepak Machado 23:38
That's a great framework somewhere. Thanks for that. And this morning, I was having a conversation with my son and asked him what change would you like to see in this world. And without much delay or hesitation he told me, I would like to change the way the subjects are taught in the school. I would like to include gamification in teaching. My mind was absolutely blown by this thought. Kids these days are very advanced, I must say. So Samir, our main theme of this podcast is success and around success. So we are trying to connect different points to success like purpose we're talking today. So we are talking about different topics. So what would be your definition of success? I know depends person to person, but according to you what success is?
Samir Geepee 24:27
so I listened to this. Earl Nightingale the Strangest Secret, if you've heard of it, and in that he defines the definition of success, and I embrace the definition that he has provided. And he defined success is the progressive realisation of a worthy ideal. So if you're progressively improving towards a worthy ideal for yourself, then you're a success. And each person is on their own timelines. And I truly believe that you shouldn't compare. You can take inspiration, but you shouldn't compare from us framework to belittle or to bring somebody else down. But to motivate, inspire, you can compare, you can check with somebody else on the leaderboard, or you also understand what are the possibilities for yourself by looking at others. But that should not contribute to anyone bringing down their own self worth. So success is the progressive realisation of a worthy ideal that any individual is working towards. And, yeah, I'll leave it there.
Deepak Machado 25:44
So I listened to this very often somewhere, at least once in two days, so it rewires or keeps me on the top of whatever we are doing. Thank you for also sharing your insights there. So I heard about or read about Awesome Walkers. Please enlighten us about this initiative.
Samir Geepee 26:07
Awesome Walkers is just an initiative that I started where I just knew. I just knew that I loved having conversations. And I had no clue what I was getting into. It was just I had said to my office, I had filled it with beanbags and very casual atmosphere. And I just called up a group of friends and said, Come over, I just set up a new office, let's have conversation, and everyone was like, almost every person that I invited for that first meeting, was asking me the same question. So what are we going to have a conversation about? And I said, I don't know, just come, we'll figure it out. And when I kept, so I had kept a number of 20 to 25. Because that's the only number of seats that I had, there was only reason why I limited to that number. And I said, we will have this many people. And when I started getting the same question from everyone, then identify two people out of that guest list and said, We are going to have a conversation, the rest of them will listen to it. So they were like, Okay, what are we going to have a conversation about? Again, I told them, don't worry, just come. And we'll have a conversation. Now, when we were preparing for this podcast, you actually give a framework, you said, this is going to be the title, this is going to be the concert, we are going to revolve around this. For me, I was like, I don't know what you're going to talk about. And I didn't want to prepare anything. I didn't want to come with a set frame of mind. So just come. They came. We had an hour of conversation with each. And at the end, I asked the audience, how do you like it? They said we love it. So I said, How often do you want it? They said probably once in a month. I asked them why. And they were like, We are busy. We have other things to do. So we won't be able to come every week or every other week. I said, Okay, thank you for that feedback. And then I thought to myself, why am I doing this? Am I doing this for them? Or am I doing it for myself? So I realized the reason why I started doing awesome walkers and Metro intervention after that wasbecause I was having amazing conversations in my life with people. And the only thing in my mind was, if somebody else could hear these conversations, it would be so awesome. They could learn and take away so much.
Samir Geepee 28:40
And that is the only premise. I didn't have a grand vision or I didn't have a big goal or any of that stuff. I just wanted to have conversations. And as we started having these conversations, things have been picking up. I started bringing into my circle more and more interesting people having more and more interesting conversations. And as a result, one fine day. I remember RJ Kritika was on the show and I was having a conversation and she was talking about how she had finished college. She didn't have a job. And she was asking herself what do I love to do the most. And she discovered she loved talking. Talking was one thing that she loved to do the most. And she started looking for a job and then she found a radio channel and then she got into radio and she became a famous artist.
Samir Geepee 29:35
Listening to that I asked myself what do I love the most? answering that question, change everything. It is from that point on I started calling myself a conversationalist. Because and that was I think Episode Number 100 or something. I mean, after 100 conversations where everyone was reinforcing and telling me that I'm great at conversations. I embraced innovation separated and said, Yes. And the moment I did that, then I started doing something else. I started looking at how can I get better at conversations now?
Deepak Machado 30:10
Great. Thanks for that. Samir of you also are an author of a book called awesome cup. And you said you It took you almost 18 years to finish this book. Why? Why did it take 18 years?
Samir Geepee 30:28
Why it took because I was not really looking to write for the sake of writing a book. 18 years ago, what happened was I started writing something where I had gone and lived on a farm, back in Auroville, in Pondicherry and I had some amazing conversations over there. And once I came out of it, I got so inspired, I sat and wrote down a small piece. And I showed it to an uncle of mine who was a very dear uncle of mine who passed away. He is the one who got me into the world of reading and all that stuff, he got me my first novel. And so he told me that, to me, this is a good piece, but it is an incomplete please. So I kept it. I kept it and I kept going back to it back and forth, trying to write, but words wouldn't come words wouldn't flow. So I let life take over. And I was living life. And as I was living life, one fine day, back in 2019, we had a 20 year college reunion.And then I came back after the deal and in the whole structure and the whole plot and everything just hit me. And I knew exactly how I should finish that story.
Samir Geepee 32:00
Now when I say it took me 18 years, it was an 18 year of preparation of the experiences, the conversation, the ideas and the insights, and all of that come together.That resulted in the book coming and seeing the light. Once I had that idea, then it took me only 30 days to write the entire book. Within 30 days, I sat down like a maniac and I would sit every night, from seven to 1012, sometimes 5am in the morning, and I would writeand I would read because I was possessed. And that is,you know, this is what I say when you push yourself to do something, sometimes it doesn't work. But when you find out higher, deeper, meaningful purpose for what you want to do, and you knew exactly why you want to do it, then you don't have to push yourself, the goal will pull you towards it in such force, that it will just emerge out of you very naturally. And that's what happened with me that awesome, awesome capacity of a story where it's about five friends who come together for a college reunion. And then they have conversations. And in the book through the story, what I do is I share the tools of having good conversation, because like you said at the very beginning, also, conversations are improving. The quality of our life depends on the quality of the conversations, either with others or ourselves. If you're mindful of already, then what happens is it changes the quality of everything that we have around us. So I share tips and tools and everything in a story format in a conversation format, about how to manage your time, not time, our mind and the conversation that we have with it. So that's what Awesome Cup is about.
Deepak Machado 33:45
Yeah, good. I look forward to reading it.
Samir Geepee 33:48
Yeah, the cup is a metaphor for the mind. Yeah.
Deepak Machado 33:53
Thank you for that. Thank you for deep insights into your book. So somewhere, where do you go when you want to find peace? Like I like to do a breathing kind of a meditation, or some people would like to do some other kind of meditation. So when somebody wants to find some peace, where do you want to...Where do you go?
Samir Geepee 34:11
Don't go anywhere. I'm always at peace.I remove I remove all elements of toxicity or worry or any of that stuff from my life consciously, continuously. It is it is a daily practice. It is not.Yes.
Deepak Machado 34:32
Yeah. So whoever I speak with these days? I mean, it's ubiquitous. Everyone has a mobile in their hands. Everyone is busy with their lives. How do you keep away from mobile? I've been trying to do it. I've been trying to keep it below 30 minutes a day. I still very, very challenging.Then I started reducing notification. I remove notifications. I become a part of me I'm trying to reduce. Do you have any strategies for that to reduce this mobile phone usage time or screen time?
Samir Geepee 35:06
No, I don't. I really, it just is a matter of what are you consuming the mobile for? Yeah, I don't think usage of the mobile is a bad thing or a good thing. What you extract out of it defines there is a good thing or a bad thing. Yeah. So mobile is a device, which gives you information. Mobile is a device, which takes your time mobile is a device. So you just being self aware of what you're doing is the tool.And, like I said earlier, if you're very clear about your direction, where you want to go to where you are heading towards, then just like those questions that you ask the first question that you asked, How do you arrive at the right questions? the right kind of strategies will pop up when you know, with clear, with clarity, your intentions provide clear living an intentional life, everything will flow into place everything will find its space.
Deepak Machado 36:15
Do you have any daily affirmations to keep you grounded?
Samir Geepee 36:21
I have been living a life where I have for a very long time. So let me give you a story. I mean, you must have heard as a turning point yesterday, also that I mentioned about this interview that I attended back in the advertising field, and I walked into your agency and I, before the interview, I asked myself, does this company deserve me? When they didn't hire me, I told myself that they lost a good candidate who would have created hell would work. So for the longest period of time, my mindset has always been, I'm good. I'm good at what I do, I have to just identify how to find the way to reach out to the most number of people in the world as possible. My self worth has been always high.So I've not practice any intentional reading of affirmations on a daily basis, that has not been my practice. And I think that is because one of my strengths is not consistency. So I don't like to be doing something on a very daily basis on very structured manner. And more from the creative process where I let myself immersed in what's happening around me and immerse myself and that's the reason also why perhaps my interviews or my conversations, I go without structure, and I find structure in the chaos. I find that I'm able to do things when I immerse myself and I'm present completely. So do you have any particular morning routines somewhere that you follow? Or you take it as it comes? No one even things I have I do work out.
Deepak Machado 38:20
Samir Geepee 38:22
So one of the morning routines I have is to wake up, I wake up in the morning, and Okay. And then I tend to wake up automatically around five, and then depending on the day, and depending on what I'm doing, perhaps something I get out of bed, not a statement. But most of the days I get out of bed and then I go for a workout with my friends and I kickstart my day with workout and mindfulness. Yeah.
Deepak Machado 38:53
Okay, great. In our initial call, you gave me a very good tip about positive feedback. You also coined a sentence "positive feedback is like a dumbbell." You also spoke in this episode a little bit, please elaborate on that. Why is it...Why is positive feedback important? Or why keeping track of positive feedback is important?
Samir Geepee 39:17
Is a very good question. And a very good thought actually. And if we go back to public speaking as an example, to elaborate on this topic.And if you look at my journey, where I froze, and I didn't speak and I avoided the stage, what happened as a result was I was not receiving any feedback, I was not receiving any positive feedback or negative feedback because I was not taking any action. Now, when you get negative feedback, there are two ways to look at it. One is to be depressed, down and out. The other one is to push yourself to convert it into a positive feedback, which means asking yourself what should I do to make it better Now, the more you get positive feedback, the more your confidence muscle starts growing. Think about any area of your life where you're confident, you're only confident because people told you that you're good at it. Or because you had some kind of a positive reinforcement that what you're doing is working. So if you do not get positive reinforcement that what you're doing is working, you wouldn't be confident you will be less confident about it. So the key first is to take action. No matter what the outcome, whether it is positive or negative, if it is negative, work on converting it into positive, and the more positive you have, the more confident you will become in that particular area of life. And it is the simple access that the listeners can do over here today, where they can ask themselves, which area of life they are not feeling confident right now. And if they have any area of life, that they're not feeling confident about two questions to ask, are they taking action? If they're taking action, what kind of feedback are they receiving? Because if it is negative, then they know what to do next. Take steps to make it into positive. And the more positive they have, the more their confidence must. Some people, you know whether in Toastmasters, when somebody new comes in, and they stand over there, and they look at the speaker speaking and they're like, wow, I can never speak like that, that guy, he must have been born confident, or he must have been, you know, always been confident all his life. And I can never do that. So I'm not joining the club, or I'm not taking a speaking role, or I'm not going to enter into this. With respect to speaking, I'm just sharing with you right now. And it takes a bit of an effort and time to explain to them that they started off just where you are right now today. Not everyone comes into Toastmasters or into a program like this.Because they're confident they come because they want to improve that confidence. So finding a safe environment to practice and grow is very important for you to build the confidence muscle in any aspect of life. Yeah.Does that make sense?
Deepak Machado 42:24
So yeah, absolutely. Thanks for sharing your insights. And I'm also enlightened with the with your thoughts, with your conversations here. And this decade, Samir 2020s. Now, this decade, I call them as the roaring 20s. And I'm very excited for the fact that there are changes happening around us disruptions happening around us new technologies, whatever life has changed for for good. What are you most excited about for the nextfor this decade, or for the next five years, 10 years.
Samir Geepee 42:59
So for the next 510 years. I'm really excited about how the world is going to evolve drastically, dramatically, actually, because the last year 2020. After 10 years, 15 years, you're going to see this as a pivotal time in our existence. In our lifespan, we will see the things that started pivoting at 2020. The whole world started recalibrating itself on so many levels. And the next generation is not going to wait to become 30 or 40 or 50 years old before they become a millionaire anymore. And becoming a millionaire is not about the money. It's about the impact that you can leave on people. So which means more number of people are going to leave more number of impact on society much much, much faster than ever before. Because of the opportunity of going digital and scaling up and doing things. We are in a very unique position in so many different ways. And it will be very interesting to see like how your own son at the age of 11 spoke about changing the education system and gamification. Can you? I can't imagine me telling that at age of 11 I would go and play a game but I wouldn't think about the education system and gamifying it... I would never think about it. I know me, I know who I was when I was living. Right? So if 111 year old or 12 year old can think like that. Imagine the army of 11 and 12 year olds and 13 year olds what can they really come up with collectively? And that is what excites me and really excites me to see the world that you are going to be stepping into. Everything is going to change the rules of the game are going to completely change on so many levels. There is a beautiful quote or saying from somebody I don't know who said that. They said, "Never try to solve tomorrow's problems with today's thinking." We don't even know what what his problems are. And we try to impose so much on our children. Instead of we just give them the skills given the mindset. So there is one thing that I want observed in what you did today, with your son. And I want to just highlight this as one single skill that if every parent can instill in their child, it could be a game changer. You did this today. And I pray everyone does it do, which is to instill the idea of going and doing research. That alone is a game changer. Because by telling them to go to research, what you're telling them is, I'm not going to tell you everything, you will figure out things on your own. You go apply your mind, you go work on your mind, and you start doing the thinking for yourself. And the moment you can start doing thinking for yourself, you're telling a child without telling the child that you will own your mind. I mean, you can own your mind, you can own the world, you can own everything, you can do whatever you want.
Samir Geepee 46:17
So as a parent, if we instill the idea of going and doing research telling children, choose whatever you love, choose whatever it is that you are passionate about, explore it deeper, go in depth, not at the surface level, and talk about shallow curiosity. Don't be shallow, curious about life, or anything that you'd like to be deeply curious and learn as much as possible about it. And when you do that, then you will expand their minds and their minds expands. Our world will expand.
Samir Geepee 46:53
Yep. That's what excites me about the next 10-15 years to see a world where it where it will be led by children.
Deepak Machado 47:04
Yeah. Yes, Samir. If somebody's currently struggling with their personal growth, what is your one suggestion to them? Somebody wants to change, but they're scared to change, because they're scared of judgment. What is your one suggestion that you would give to somebody who is struggling with that kind of burden on their shoulders?
Samir Geepee 47:28
I would say surround yourself with the right kind of people, the right kind of thoughts. And now that person would ask me, what is the right kind of people in the right kind of thoughts. So the one thing that the person is not having right now in their life, is empowerment. Because if they have that, then they wouldn't struggle. They wouldn't have self doubt. Empowerment or positive framing of words and thoughts is very key for some reason. So go and explore the people that you surrounding yourself with this is the You are the average of the five people that you are around with, right? So go and observe, who are you spending the most number of amount of time with. And if that is aiding you in your journey, if it has not, there will be people in your life that you cannot remove. Alright. But there is always people that you can add. So ask yourself, How can I add more people? So that the impact of these people who are toxic in my life is diminished?
Deepak Machado 48:41
Great. Great thoughts, Samir, thank you for that.You said that you have a program that you are going to run for kids or maybe early teens. Can you give us more information about that? And where can we find more information about this program that you're going to run?
Samir Geepee 49:04
So this is a program that I created because I wish like I said earlier, I wish that I had the confidence that I had the right kind of people and mentors and mindset at a very young age, my life would have been for sure different because I had certain keys, skills and strengths. So at the age of 39, when I told my family that I'm going to get into the world of coaching, and this is what I'm going to be doing. I had one of the most strangest responses from my dad. He told me send me this is what you should have been doing all your life. Why didn't you choose this before. And I found that quite amusing because as a guide and a mentor, I would have hoped that he or somebody would have pointed it out to me much earlier. But I went through life going through so many different iterations before I found who I am and what I'm supposed to be doing. So my goal is to allow children to find at a very young age and to be successful at a very, very young age, financially, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, has the right kind of tools so that they launch into life with the right kind of mindset for everything with the right kind of belief systems for everything that will allow them to live an empowered life. So this program is called right now the Young Leaders Mastermind, which is going through its own evolution.
Samir Geepee 50:37
There, I see tremendous amount of clarity that comes at a very young age, which will aid them forward in a very spectacular fashion. So to find this, they just have to reach out to me, I'm available on all the social media platform, they can just search for me and send me a message and I will give them the updated information of what I am running it is for children from the age of 11 to 20. At this point of time, where the goal is to create the next breed of changemakers of society. I look forward to this program for my family, my son, and I'm sure that this will be a game changer for whoever would love love their kids to have the mindset that the new world requires. The New Age requires. somewhere. This has been a great conversation with you.
Deepak Machado 51:31
Thank you for your time. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, your strategies. And do you have any parting words to our listeners?
Samir Geepee 51:41
Parting words, I would say, live an awesome life. Don't live a compromised life. You have amazing gifts, find your gift, and use it as humanity. Thank you so much.
Samir Geepee 51:56
Thank you, thank you Deepak. Been a real pleasure sharing my thoughts over here and we are thoughtful questions and for your presence. Thank you. You're welcome.
Deepak Machado 52:08
To reach out to Samir, I request you to please visit Samirgeepee.com. And please go through his resources. He's got some great resources over there. I wish you all the best.
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